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‘This book is essential for anyone trying to blend a career and family, and navigating the challenges that come with it’ Alex Stedman, The Frugality

‘Tobi’s words warmly and confidently guide you through the journey of blending your career with your family, from the early discussions about embarking on parenthood, to progressing in your job. Woven through the experiences of others, along with her own, you’ll find clear and practical expert advice to help you navigate the different challenges that arise. Tobi is clearly passionate about helping mothers aim for far more than surviving – she is on a mission to help us thrive’
Anna Mathur

Whether you are a new mother, just thinking about it, or already trying to combine a career and children, working motherhood can sometimes seem like an impossible balancing act. That’s why Tobi Asare, founder of My Bump Pay, doesn’t doesn’t talk about ‘the juggle’ or finding ‘balance’, but instead about The Blend.

In this book, Tobi shares her hard-won wisdom and advice on how to make working work for you, covering everything from the financial to the emotional aspects of working motherhood, and from preparing for maternity leave to returning with confidence. This is not just about surviving or staying sane, this is about how to thrive while successfully blending work and family life. The Blend will help you set yourself up for success before the baby comes along, during the pregnancy and beyond.

With chapters focusing on navigating work while pregnant, freelancers, childcare, future babies and mum guilt, each section also has advice and career tips from successful women who are already making the best of the blend.

Reviews

Anna Mathur
Tobi's words warmly and confidently guide you through the journey of blending your career with your family, from the early discussions about embarking on parenthood, to progressing in your job. Woven through the experiences of others, along with her own, you'll find clear and practical expert advice to help you navigate the different challenges that arise. Tobi is clearly passionate about helping mothers aim for far more than surviving the juggle, she is on a mission to help us thrive.
Alex Stedman, The Frugality
Tobi's advice is practical without judgment (a rare skill!). This book is essential for anyone trying to blend a career and family, and navigating the challenges that come with it.
Stylist
Managing motherhood and career is an age-old conundrum that doesn't seem to be getting any easier, but this smart and tactical book by Tobi Asare, founder of My Bump Pay, tackles all the issues that women (and their partners) face when navigating a workplace as parents. It covers negotiating promotions and pay rises while going on maternity leave, sharing parental leave, the best childcare for your needs and budget, and how to return to the workplace while never sugar-coating the reality of the situation in the UK (where 43,000 women have dropped out of work to look after their families in the last year). It gives you hope.
Glamour magazine
Best new books 2023 This is a comforting, inspiring and insightful book that has helpful and applicable advice on a variety of topics, from working whilst pregnant, juggling childcare, advocating for yourself through a variety of HR options, being self-employed and, something so many of us suffer from - handling guilt. This is like having a boost of confidence in your pocket that you can revist again and again.
Psychologies magazine
[The Blend] isn't just for high-flyers; it's packed with practical information on your rights and responsibilities, pay and benefits, flexible working, and childcare. Asare also covers navigating the maternity-leave return, confidence and promotions. It's especially handy reading for mums-to-be wanting to go into this exciting but demanding life-stage with eyes wide open.
The British Blacklist
Weaving together a comprehensive and easy to follow guide for new or aspiring mothers in the workplace she meticulously breaks down the common struggles mothers face while chasing their careers, and provides valuable insight on how to thrive, not just survive.