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What is “woman” if not “mother”?
Anything she wants to be.


Foregoing motherhood has traditionally marked a woman as “other.” With no official place setting for her in our society, she has hovered on the sidelines: the quirky girl, the neurotic career obsessive, the “eccentric” aunt. Instead of continuing to paint women without kids as sad, self-obsessed, or somehow dysfunctional, what if we saw them as boldly forging a new vision for a fully autonomous womankind? Or as journalist and thought leader Ruby Warrington asks, what if being a woman without kids were in fact its own kind of legacy?

Taking in themes from intergenerational healing to feminism to environmentalism, this personal look and anthropological dig into a stubbornly taboo topic is a timely and brave reframing of what it means not to be a mum. Whether we are childless by design or circumstance, we can live without regret, shame, or compromise.

Bold and tenderhearted, Women Without Kids seeks first and foremost to help validate a path that is the natural consequence of women having more say about the choices we make and how our lives play out. Within this, it unites the unsung sisterhood of non-mothers as a vital part of our evolution and collective healing as women, as humans, and as a global family.

Reviews

Emma Gannon, bestselling author of Olive and host of the Ctrl Alt Delete podcast
A sharp and intricate look at the personal and political sides of being a child-free woman. While reading, I was reminded of the first time I read Rebecca Solnit's Men Explain Things to Me?this is an exciting, bold, feminist book that gives the child-free conversation the space it deserves.
Holly Whitaker, New York Times bestselling author of Quit Like a Woman
This isn't a book about not having kids for the defiantly childless. This is a book about motherhood under patriarchy?about our mothers, becoming mothers, not becoming mothers, choices and non-choices, and consequences and the things that separate us and keep us chained to a toxic cultural heritage. It is a startling, confronting, and liberating treatise.
Meghan Daum, editor of Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids
I have read countless books on the subject of chosen childlessness, and I can't remember encountering one written with such candor, care, and precision of thought. It's easy to be glib about this subject, to tuck into defensiveness even while espousing pride and certainty. In Women Without Kids, Ruby Warrington does just the opposite. She tells her story with deep insight, great humor, and, best of all, an endless curiosity about the motives of her own mind. She's also done her research and knows her history, which she uses to draw important connections between the personal choices we make and the political and social landscapes that inform them. Essential reading no matter how you feel about kids!
Riane Eisler, author of The Chalice and the Blade and The Real Wealth of Nations, coauthor of Nurturing Our Humanity
This is a wonderful book, personal yet universal, showing that what counts is not biological motherhood but caring?and that putting care front and center in our lives and social policies is how we will create the world that children, and all of us, need and want.
Zoë Noble, founder of We Are Childfree
Child-free life is a path less travelled, and Women Without Kids offers a road map for anyone considering their own journey into the unknown. The research, reflections, and thought-provoking questions in this feminist must-read give women the space and language to pick and pursue the life that's truly right for them.
Jody Day, founder of Gateway Women, psychotherapist, and author of Living the Life Unexpected: How to Find Hope, Meaning, and a Fulfilling Future Without Children
A radical, empathic, and provocative book that applies a feminist lens to what it means to be a woman without children in the twenty-first century. Through personal narrative and meticulous sociocultural research, Warrington demonstrates how consciously owning the experience of non-motherhood (whether or not by choice) has the potential to transform the experience of all women, mothers included, and to create a better world for all the generations that follow us.
Rachel Cargle, founder of The Loveland Foundation, The Loveland Group, and Rich Auntie
Women Without Kids is a necessary invitation for us to reconsider our relationship to and with motherhood. Traditionally, being a child-free woman is expected to come with shame and regret?Ruby's latest work adds celebration and necessary nuance to the story of women and people of all genders intentionally living child-free.
Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work
In Women Without Kids, Ruby Warrington offers a compassionate exploration into what can be a highly loaded and emotional topic?the choice whether or not to have children. She explores the different factors that contribute to this decision, while her honest and vulnerable sharing of her personal journey inspires deep self-reflection in readers. Women Without Kids is a must-read for anyone seeking a full understanding of all the dynamics that play into this significant life choice.
Kirsten Miller, New York Times bestselling writer and author of The Change
Women Without Kids makes a passionate and compelling case for rejecting old notions about the lives women should lead. True freedom is the right to forge unique paths?which won't always include motherhood. In tackling the antiquated stigmas surrounding childless women, Warrington is one of the trailblazers leading the way.