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Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing

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1st November 2022

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Selected: Hardcover / ISBN-13: 9781472295934

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‘There’s never been a more honest or raw memoir . . . and it may just save lives’ Daily Mail

‘Funny, fascinating, compelling . . . also a wonderful read for fans of FriendsThe Times


‘HI, MY NAME IS MATTHEW, although you may know me by my full name. My friends call me Matty.’

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who travelled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us . . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell – and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it – Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humour, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fuelled it despite seemingly having it all.

‘An unflinching and often harrowing must-read for 90s pop culture fans’ Guardian

‘Written with Chandler’s trademark sarcasm and self-deprecation’ Telegraph

‘A hopeful read . . . I started to think of [it] not as a celebrity memoir about addiction, but as an addiction memoir written by a man who understands his own history through the prism of showbiz’ Independent

Reviews

Marta Kauffman, co-creator of the NBC sitcom Friends
Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing is a raw, unflinching memoir that took courage to write. As it turns out, Matthew Perry has a lot of courage. He takes us through his addiction, his illness and his paralyzing loneliness. Somehow, during the course of his life, Matthew was able to turn his pain into comedic joy for others, but, he tells us, it was at a cost. Matthew takes us through his "hell" but doesn't wallow. Ultimately, this book is filled with hope for the future. If you want to know about who Matthew Perry is, stay away from the rags and read this.
Daily Mail
There's never been a more honest or raw memoir . . . and it may just save lives
The Times
Funny, fascinating, compelling . . . also a wonderful read for fans of Friends
Observer
Harrowing and revealing about the juncture where extreme compound addiction collides with mega-celebrity
Guardian
An unflinching and often harrowing must-read for 90s pop culture fans
Telegraph
Written with Chandler's trademark sarcasm and self-deprecation
Independent
A hopeful read . . . I started to think of [it] not as a celebrity memoir about addiction, but as an addiction memoir written by a man who understands his own history through the prism of showbiz