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Big Friendship

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14th July 2020

Price: £13.99

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Selected: Paperback / ISBN-13: 9780349013022

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‘Deeply compelling’ ROXANE GAY ‘An inspiration’ ARIEL LEVY ‘Wonderful’ HILLARY RODHAM CLINTON

From the hosts of hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend comes the bible on how to keep each other close.

A New York Times bestseller

Close friendships are the key to happiness – but we don’t talk enough about what it takes to nurture them for the long haul.

Telling the story of their own ten-year, complex, loving friendship, Aminatou and Ann share hard-won wisdom with honesty, hilarity and compassion. They’ve weathered life-threatening health scares, long-distance living, and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a parking lot. And they know: the most important part of a Big Friendship is investing in each other again and again.

This is a testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship and a compelling story of how it can survive, thrive and become a life-affirming bond.

Reviews

Roxane Gay, author of Bad Feminist
In a culture that primarily values romantic or familial relationships, Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close is a necessary corrective. Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman offer a deeply compelling book that is part clear-eyed and poignant memoir of a big, invaluable friendship and part frank manifesto on how to nurture the important friendships in our lives in good times and bad. In each chapter, Sow and Friedman demonstrate how they navigate the nuances of their long-standing friendship with elegance, warmth, and generosity. This is the kind of book that makes you want to reach out to your best, biggest friends to say thank you, thank you, thank you for walking in this world with me. As with your big friendships, this unforgettable book is one you will want to keep close.
Rebecca Traister, author of Good and Mad and All the Single Ladies
Big Friendship is a loving, thoughtful and extremely frank examination of the rich and rocky terrain of women's friendships. It takes as its subject the committed social bonds that sustain and frustrate us as much (or more!) as any of the sexual and familial ties that we've been trained to take more seriously. Here, friendship gets the emotional and intellectual respect it deserves; and like any truly great love story, Ann's and Amina's is a page turner. I love this book.
Hillary Rodham Clinton
At its heart, this book is about the power of friendship. In a wonderful and intimate portrayal, Big Friendship shines a light on how being a friend can be just as eye-opening, challenging, and joyful as being a parent or a partner -- and how it can make you your best self. Aminatou and Ann's story is as universal as it is revolutionary.
Ariel Levy, author of The Rules Do Not Apply
Love can be passionate-transformative, painful, enlivening, bone-deep-without being erotic. In this openhearted book, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman show us how a friendship can be as rewarding and enduring as a marriage, and they urge us to value it accordingly-as they clearly do. These women we love to listen to give us the gift of a look inside their intimacy, with all its challenges, and it is an inspiration.
Kirkus
A rich exploration of friendship by the talented women behind the Call Your Girlfriend podcast . . . The authors are well equipped to deliver honest and helpful advice to anyone struggling to maintain a healthy union over time and distance. A soul-searching reflection that delivers an emotional journey to amplify the self-help tips.
Elle
Friends and hosts of podcast Call Your Girlfriend, Sow and Friedman celebrate the power of this underappreciated bond. A life-affirming guide to creating and preserving great friendships
Evening Standard
Big Friendship could well be the feel-good, non-fiction book of 2020. From the hosts of hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, Big Friendship examines how to nurture friendships for the long haul - close friends are the key to happiness, after all. The authors tell the story of their own decade-long friendship, the joys and the pitfalls, and it's a clear reminder of how important friendship is - and will make you want to call you pals after for a chat
New York Times Book Review
[A] thoughtful and highly readable story
Vogue
Big Friendship is an anatomy of the way one particular friendship works, but it is also an argument for taking all amicable relationships more seriously, for understanding them in the terms we usually reserve for romance (the authors share their "meet cute" and discuss the "spark" and "chemistry" between them), and for appreciating the sometimes difficult and time-consuming work it takes to maintain these friendships
Bustle
Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman are the patron saints of friendship